Saturday, June 8, 2013

Dorothy Law Nolte "If a child"...revisited.


Who do we think we are?  Why in the hell do we trust our children to psychiatrists?  Haven't we learned from history? 



“If a child lives with being told he is disabled, he learns he is not whole. . .
If a child lives with being told he is conduct disordered, he learns he is expected to fight. . .
If a child lives with being told he has anxiety disorder,  he learns he cannot cope . . .
If a child lives with being told he is a victim of his "mental disorder" , he learns he cannot change...
If a child lives with being told he has no social skills, he learns to be wary of social situations . . .
If a child lives with the idea of being "indistinguishable from his  typical peers" placed as an icon of worthiness before him, he learns to envy the "normal" even though it is a social construct. . .
If a child lives with the idea he is only worthy if he takes drugs to make his carers burdens easier, he learns to feel guilty for being indequate ...  and that to be "good" is more important than to "be"

BUT

If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient . . .
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident . . .
If a child lives with praise, he learns to be appreciative . . .
If a child lives with acceptance, he learns to love . .
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves..
If a child lives with honesty, he learns what truth is . . .
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice . . .
If children live with recognition, they learn to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn to be generous.
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith in himself and those about him . . .
If a child lives with friendliness, he learns the world is a nice place in which to live . . .” 


Some kids take longer, and are a lot more work.  There is no sin in that.  Let he or she who is worthy, who is without psychiatric blemish cast the first ritalin pill.

We are losing a generation of boys to the new drug lords.  And it's the psychiatrists who are now fighting it, while we beg for pharmaceuticals to help us raise our children. Let us meet our children where they are, and celebrate who they are.  Are you too afraid after reading all the crap in the media?  That's exactly what you are supposed to be...good consumer!

1 comment:

Usethebrains Godgiveyou said...

You know, at one time I thought my child was different than the Child Dorothy Nolte spoke about. Where that came from was mostly the propaganda of psychiatry, and the fear tactics of science.

Think of that....to be so twisted about the label that I thought my son didn't deserve tolerance, encouragement, praise, acceptance, approval, honesty, fairness,recognition, sharing, security, or friendliness. I thought he would get those when he was worthy via all the answers science had for him.

He was damn born worthy...don't get messed up there. Don't be stupid like I was.